- Excessive “The facts” based interpretation of life (or pie-chart-ism)
- Inability to experience the soul or spirit
- Anxiety or panic at the idea of not being normal
I would argue that most things we do not do, that are authentic to us, we do not do because we are afraid of not being or appearing normal.
Just think of a situation where you did not show your authentic self (granted the reason for this can be complex).
- A business meeting in which you did not voice your insights, foresight, and understanding because they speak from sensitivity, depth, and soul, rooted in years of listening (for fear of ridicule and dismissal)
- Understanding and insight into the dynamics of a relationship with friend or partner because it was rooted in intuition and sensitivity and not "facts" (the very definition of normal and the ultimate "normal" bully)
- Sexual desires (this can be simply having them or not)
- Gender orientation (having one, multiple or none)
Or maybe more like this; there is "Normalness" and "Vulnerability" and they are oppositional (at least by the rules of normal), to show up in vulnerability is to speak authentically (which normalness can not and will not tolerate)
Which means, mostly, sharing hard painful truths which is not a safe, secure thing to do, this by definition shows normal where and how it is poisoning the very well it is drinking from... long term viability, sustainability, and creativity.
But to show up in normal is to speak, explicitly, not in, vulnerability.
It is to speak for the maintenance, safety, and security for those who have it (in all of its innumerable forms and expressions).
I mean by this, to show up in norma,l is to do everything one can not to be in vulnerability even though vulnerability is the one thing that can and will save you, but it is inherently not safe or secure.
"Normal" always achieves it ends by deploying its 10-ton bullies "The Facts, Shaming" and "Threats" Really there is nothing that does not feel the crippling judgment and threat of Normalness.